It all clicked one day. I went from a moment of FRUSTRATING PARENTING to realizing the everyday benefits of my daily practice. In this quick video I share how mindfulness helped a frustrated Dad and upset little boy come together and avoid a tragic outcome.
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Daily mindfulness practice, better parenting.
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There was a moment in my life
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when all of my diligency in my practice
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of the day really came
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and spoke to me as, WOW!
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okay, I get it.
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this is some powerful stuff.
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And it happened on this beautiful spring day
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and I was taking my
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son to his first soccer –
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Travel Team Soccer tryout
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Here’s my little 8-year-old boy
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he’s all pumped up under his tryout
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And I told him an
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hour before, to get all of this stuff ready.
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So, of course, we’re running a little bit late
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you got to pick somebody up, we jumped into the car
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and I asked him, “Do you have your soccer ball?”
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Then he says, “No.”
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So, I take a deep breath get little
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stern, he goes back inside,
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gets his bag, comes back in.
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We’re driving down the road and I asked him,
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“Do you have you goalie gloves? Are they in your bag?”
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And he says, “No.”
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So now you can imagine as a parent
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we’ve all been there, right?
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And I was getting a little
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wound up, I started to get little stressed
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so I spin it around pull it in the driveway,
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and he runs in and he gets back and
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I’m frustrated as I should be because now I got to
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go thorugh all this traffic.
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And we’re going to be late darrr…
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I told him he had to do this
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and we’re driving and I look and
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I can see, he’s little frustrated too.
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I’m frustrated. I know I’m frustrated
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and I have right to be frustrated.
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I told him, we wouldn’t be in this situation if it wasn’t for him.
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He knows better and he is frustrated
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for whole variety of reasons as well because a miscommunication
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and injustices.
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The bottom line: it didn’t matter how right either one of us was,
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it wasn’t what we needed to be,
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it wasn’t how I wanted the send
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my 8-year-old into his first Travel Team Soccer tryout.
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And it wasn’t the way he
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wanted to go into it.
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We stopped for moment and I said,
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I said, “Do you feel worried right now?”
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He said, “Yes”.
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I said, “Do you want to go place, do you feel like going and playing soccer right now?”
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He said, “No.”
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I said, “We do you say we put a stop that right now
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and we get ready to go have a great soccer tryout”
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He said, “Okay.”
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What’s your favorite song?
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I put on his favorite song
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driving down the road
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it’s a beautiful scene
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of an 8-year-old boy to put on the right song
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and the next thing you know, he’s smiling
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we’re both grooving. We’re picking up his buddy.
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Everyone is laughing and cheering
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by the time we get to the soccer tryout.
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And as I say, the rest is history.
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Practice Of the Day – Mindfulness without the monastery.
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www.FeelingLikeSuperman.com
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